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15 Best Wand Vibrators in 2024, According to Sex Educators
Made to fit perfectly in your hand, this the Empress Tidal is ideal for solo or partnered fun, with the added bonus of being 100 per cent waterproof. Working out which vibrators are best is fun, of course, but it also involves rigorous testing. It’s not just about whether or not a vibe will get you off, too — stimulate yourself enough and you’re all but guaranteed to get some kind of orgasm out of the deal. There are certain boxes a vibrator needs to check and while I looked into those myself, I also reached out to sexologists and sex educators for input. “Vibrators are often the primary option for anyone who’s not in a sexual relationship, though they can be used in coupled sex, too,” she said. “Many women find it more difficult to achieve orgasm over time, and a vibrator can be helpful in providing the necessary stimulation.”
A lot of toys have multiple settings, and that often allows you to turn up and down the intensity, speed, and/or pattern of vibrations. While it might be tempting to crank your toy all the way up (and you should totally do that when you’re ready to, even if that is , in fact, right away), you can also experiment with bumping up the intensity gradually. Though most people refer to the bean-shaped area at the upper crest of the vulva as the clitoris, New York City-based board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist Monica Grover, MD, says it’s just the beginning of this sensitive zone. “The external clitoris is located above the urethra and where the bilateral inner labia meet,” says Dr. Grover. This toy has a whopping 10 contraction rings inside it, for some serious stroking. The Onyx+ can be used for long-distance play, like the Lovense Max 2 above, by syncing up with another Kiiro sex toy (like the brand’s Pearl 2 vibrator) and replicating how your partner’s using it.
The shaft is inserted inside the vagina and rumbles to stimulate the G-spot while the sucker positions directly over the clit to stimulate with air technology. This tiny silicone suction toy comes in handy (pun intended) whether you’re enjoying a solo masturbation session or a steamy rendezvous with a partner. It keeps things simple when alone—and arguably is easy to maneuver—and when you’re with a partner it allows the focus to remain with each other while freeing up a second hand. LELO’s developed numerous suction toys, and its newest product is arguably the best in class. This sonic clit stimulator uses sonic pulses that provide deep, earth-shattering pleasure, and the larger mouth gently draws in the clitoris to stimulate both inside and out.
As SELF previously reported, sex toys can pass along STIs, so safer sex practices apply here. If you’re using a sex toy with someone outside of a sexually monogamous partnership, put a condom over your toy. Condoms are also key if you want to use a toy for both vaginal and anal stimulation (which you can do as long as the toy is safe for anal, a.k.a. it has a flared base). With that being said, each clit is as unique as a snowflake and should be treated as such, according to Lexington, Kentucky-based marriage and family therapist Juliana Hauser, PhD. “Discover if your glans (clitoral tip) likes light vibration or a stronger speed,” she says.
The Dame Fin has three different vibration speeds, with the highest speed being super powerful. I was actually shocked by how rumbly it was — it stimulated just as well as some of my larger vibes. And it’s slim enough that you can slip it between you and your partner during sex. This G-spot stimulator is similar to the tapping vibrator above that tapes on the G-spot once inserted, only instead of a bunny shape it features a beautiful butterfly on a mission to deliver pure pleasure to the clitoris. It has four flapping and nine vibrating modes that work in tandem and a beautiful rose-shaped base. Made famous by Sex and The City over 25 years ago, The Rabbit vibrator is known for its ability to stimulate the clitoris with impeccable precision.
While it may look a little intimidating, it’s all for a good reason; it’s been ergonomically designed to stimulate the G-spot and clitoris simultaneously, with 12 intensity levels. Similar to the BumpHer above, this is a silicone pad that can be used to cushion the impact of strap-on sex and also works well as a standalone grinder pad. However, this one was developed specifically to be useable even when you’re dealing with vulva pain viberators, whether from a chronic illness like vulvodynia, from an acute condition like bacterial vaginosis, or recovering from childbirth.
If you’re regularly able to orgasm in other ways, you may find your orgasms to be much more intense when they’re coming from a vibrator. There are women out there that just aren’t big vibrator fans (nothing wrong with that), but most women enjoy the sensation. If you always feel a little nervous firing up your noisy vibrator, Womanizer has the toy for you.
If you’re looking to treat yourself in the bedroom there are millions of sex toys to choose from, but one of the greatest things about masturbating is you’re totally in control. Ensure that it’s wide, narrow, or long enough to align with the circumference of your clit, advises Stone. If you want to pair the panty vibe with tighter clothing, it’s best to avoid “bullet-vibe-lookin’ bulges,” says Queen. One of the biggest benefits of panty vibrators is their discretion and versatility.
High-end sex toy company Lelo is known for its toys’ elegant aesthetic and luxe feel, and this cock ring is no exception. Simple to operate, easy to wear—it’s no surprise that the best vibrating cock rings tend to make for some of the best couples’ sex toys. The trick, then is finding just the right model in a sea of shimmying, shaking cock rings that can all look similar—while hiding plenty of fun surprises.
“The We-Vibe Wand 2 is perfect for those who love intense, deep, rumbly vibes that diffuse across a wide surface area for a deeper, more full-bodied sensation,” she tells SELF. If a two-in-one doesn’t impress you, then certainly the three-in-one Vibrato Wand will. While this Playboy Pleasure product may look like a standard wand vibrator, it can also be used as a vibrating dildo or a G-spot massager. The two ends are powered by separate motors, and the handle also twirls to create that come-hither motion that’s so well-suited for G-spot stimulation. Some handles are ABS plastic, which is a hard, nonporous material that’s also safe to use against the skin and also weighs less than other materials (a nice perk), Dr. Litner says. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the market for your first vibe or your 10th—with so many shapes and sizes out there, finding the right one can be tricky (not to mention time consuming).