Plus, since many vulva-owners can’t orgasm from penetration
18 Best Sex Toys for Beginners That Anyone Can Master
The sex toy scene has truly gone off in recent years via thrilling tech advancements (hello, app-controlled toys bridging the long-distance gap) and game-changing categories designed to elevate your solo or shared pleasure. Suction vibrators are a standout innovation that’s made major waves. Also known as clit sucking toys or clit suction vibrators, this category focuses on clitoral pleasure via air pressure and vibrating suction—a departure from traditional buzzy sex toys for beginners. “Dual-stimulation vibrators can be easy to use, and the combined internal and external stimulation can be great for beginners who don’t want to have to buy two different toys,” says Alesandra Madison, a BDSM educator. Many of them offer different types of stimulation from different parts of the toy.
“They are designed to go in your butt and stay in your butt,” Wright says. This creates a feeling of fullness while leaving your hands free for other activities. Meanwhile, anal beads are meant to move in and out of your butt, massaging all of the nerves you have down there, she adds. Some anal toys also vibrate, notes psychotherapist Joy Berkheimer, PhD, LMFT, an expert at SXWA, a sexual wellness award platform, which can feel even better. Smile Maker’s Ballerina is designed to wrap your entire vulva in a hug of rumbly vibrations. It’s curved to match the shape of your body, which means you can use the toy hands-free when you’re lying on your back.
While I would definitely opt for the Curvy 2+ as my number one draft pick, this one is gentle and the least aggressively vibrator-y looking vibrator I’ve ever owned. Also available in a Curvy 3+ generation, Curvy 2+ was easily my favorite of the three I tried out. It’s a pressure wave toy that also has a vibrating function — offering stimulation that ranges from buzzy and sweet to OMG WTF-intense. Size and shape are also important considerations, according to Epiphora, a sex toy reviewer who’s tried hundreds of toys in her more than fourteen years in the business. “Do your best to estimate the size and length of the shaft for your body, considering the full shaft must be inserted to achieve clitoral stimulation,” she says. A toy won’t be able to make contact with your clitoris if its shaft is too long for you to insert comfortably, so it may be best to err on the side of a shorter shaft, unless you know you love deep penetration.
Searah Deysach, sex educator and owner of pleasure shop Early to Bed, points out that hands-free vibrators can upgrade your pleasure during partnered play, too. “With a partner, toys that you don’t have to hold onto allow you touch and feel your partner and stimulate them simultaneously,” she says. Plus, since many vulva-owners can’t orgasm from penetration alone, consider hands-free vibrators a strategy for taking the elevator rather than the stairs to climax. This sex toy is designed to be worn beneath your panties, so you can enjoy discreet fun wherever you go. Plus, the wireless range is 30ft, so your partner can control the vibration settings from across the room with the hand-held remote. While many vibrators and sex toys are designed for use on just one part of the body, palm vibrators can be used basically anywhere.
Babeland and Good Vibes are SheKnows sponsors, however, all products in this article were independently selected by our editors. The short answer is yep, using a vibrator should not compromise an IUD should you choose to get one. You can banish fears of enjoying a session with your favorite external vibe only to see your IUD on the floor. You’ll want to choose objects that are smooth, durable, and are comfortable for you to hold or manipulate.
“Nearly all STIs are capable of being transmitted through sex toys, especially toys that are inserted into the body or make mucosal contact,” Susan Bard, a New York City-based dermatologist, affirmed. We loved the strong vibrations and easy-to-hold loop handle on the brand’s White Temptation but found the loaf-like shape to be awkward to use, preferring the tapered silhouette of the Purple Pleasure. The Beso Plus was our least favorite of the clitoral suction/G-spot dual-stimulator vibrators we’ve tried. Our tester found the “mouth” of the toy to be uncomfortably firm and irritating. If you wish to use a lubricant with your toy (as experts often recommend), keep in mind that only water-based lube is safe to use with all types of toys. Oil-based lubricants are not just unsafe for use with condoms but can also interact badly with toys made of soft plastic or rubber, causing the devices to disintegrate or to leach chemicals (PDF).
This adjustable fit vibrator has a unique c-shape design that targets both the G-spot and clitoris, and remains in place even during different sexual positions. The remote control can be used even over distance via a smartphone for frisky, discreet play, too. You’re on a path toward dual orgasms with this clit-meets-G-spot vibrator. “The clitoris is the principal organ for female pleasure,” says Dr. Mary Jacobson, OBGYN, chief medical officer of Hello Alpha. For this reason, she recommends trying a sex toy or vibrator that stimulates this area, too.
You can easily wash the Purple Pleasure with gentle soap and water after use , as the toy has an IPX7 waterproof rating (it can safely remain submerged in water up to 1 meter deep for 30 minutes). The “rabbit” vibrator was made famous years ago by Sex and the City and is renowned for how it simultaneously stimulates both the G-spot and the clitoris. This combination of internal and external stimulation can lead to “mind-blowing” orgasms,” says Kryplone. Called “rabbit” because of its bunny-like shape, some rabbit vibrators look more like actual rabbits — it’s a matter of personal preference! The LELO INA “is a perfect introduction to rabbit vibrators,” says Freya. These sex toys have become the go-to for pleasure seekers everywhere, offering both internal and external stimulation, they tick all the boxes.
The trade-off is that it’s $50 more expensive, and it lacks the quick on/off switch of the Magic Wand Rechargeable. Level 10 on the Le Wand Original does not offer significantly more intensity than level 4 on the Magic Wand Rechargeable, and this toy’s vibrations feel somewhat less rumbly. Although this model is an excellent wand vibrator, we don’t recommend it over our top pick unless color options are important to you. Like the Magic Wand Rechargeable, the Le Wand Original is covered by a one-year warranty. The Dame Com wand vibrator has an appealing ergonomic shape (it curves toward the body), as well as an easy-to-clean all-silicone body.
Since it’s made of 99% recycled aluminum vibrator, this is a great option if you prefer to buy products made sustainably. The metal holds temperatures well, so you can dip this toy in warm or cold water before using it, if you want to explore the different sensual sensations that brings. “It also has a tapered tip, meaning it can target specific areas of the body with ease,” Alvarez Story notes. With those criteria in mind, here are some of the best rabbit vibrators available, as recommended by sex educators, and selected from popular brands like LELO, Lovehoney, We-Vibe, Womanizer, and Fun Factory.